Why has this played out in such a devastating way as it has? Because everyone involved in this debacle has forsaken the example set by Jesus Christ for how to deal with Pharisees and their gambits:
"Then came to him from Jerusalem scribes and Pharisees, saying: Why do thy disciples transgress the tradition of the ancients? For they wash not their hands when they eat bread. But he answering, said to them: Why do you also transgress the commandment of God for your tradition?" (Matthew 15;1-3)
There, plain and simple, is the example from Jesus Christ for how to handle Pharisees and their hypocritical gambits--an example we are called to imitate but so rarely do.
When the Pharisees come knocking asking us to change our prayers for the salvation of their eternal souls saying they're offended by them, the correct answer is, "HYPOCRITES! You who curse us and pray for our destruction three times daily in your obligatory Birkat HaMinim have the audacity to demand that we change our prayers for your salvation? We will not exchange the truth for lies, and may God forgive you for even entertaining the thought!"
Who can come up with a better strategy than Christ?
Here is your ammunition:
And for Christians let there be no hope, and may all the evil in an instant be destroyed and all thy enemies be cut down swiftly; and the evil ones uproot and break and destroy and humble soon in our days. Blessed are you lord who breaks enemies and humbles sinners. (Birkat HaMinim, "Benediction" #12 of the Shmone Esreh (18 Benedictions) mandated by halacha to be prayed by every Orthodox Judaic male three times daily).
This "benediction" is 1918 years old. It predates the Good Friday prayer for the conversion of the Jews by centuries. There can be no argument that it was a reaction to "antisemitism" and "Christian violence" as was formulated at the time when the fledgling Christian Church was being persecuted by the synagogues. It has been mandatory that Orthodox Judaic males recite this curse against Christians for 1918 years now and Abe Foxman, The Chief Rabbinate of Israel, Rabbi-Knight David Rosen, the AJC and the rest of the Pharisees who have demanded that the Catholic liturgy be altered to their specification KNOW THIS. They're hypocrites. In fact, they're twice the hypocrite children of hell as their Pharisee spiritual forefathers of whom Christ said: "hypocrites; because you go round about the sea and the land to make one proselyte; and when he is made, you make him the child of hell twofold more than yourselves."